"In this day and age, everyone is keenly interested in getting along with others. We are all looking for ways to improve our human relations. One way is to stay away from arguments. You can never win an argument…you can only walk away from one with as few scars as possible. Although you may have a feeling of real conquest that will even include feeling sorry for the way you completely vanquished him, your "opponent" in an argument may have escaped with fewer lasting wounds than you did. There's no question that a heated argument leaves both parties worse for wear, and the real question is whether it settles anything."
A Help-Your-Self Booklet, 1959